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Matthews discussed "grumpy old men" who hang around diners "because they don't want to be at home with their wives"

April 21, 2008 8:43 pm ET

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SUMMARY: On Real Time, Bill Maher said to Chris Matthews: "I heard you say on your show, you were talking about Barack Obama and you said -- and I know you like him. But you said when he goes into a diner, he can't ask the average guy, you know, how the Phillies doing and all that stuff. And you said he was -- at one point, he was offered coffee and he turned it down and asked if he could have orange juice instead." After Matthews said, "Yeah," Maher continued: "First of all, Chris, you don't understand black people. They like juice. Preferably gin and juice." In response, Matthews replied: "No, no. Not true. Let me, you know, it's -- you walk into a diner, one of these things where grumpy old men are hanging around because they don't want to be at home with their wives for an hour a morning and they're hanging around there."

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On the April 18 edition of HBO's Real Time, host Bill Maher interviewed Chris Matthews and, referencing recent comments that Matthews had made about Sen. Barack Obama on MSNBC's Hardball, stated: "I heard you say on your show, you were talking about Barack Obama and you said -- and I know you like him. But you said when he goes into a diner, he can't ask the average guy, you know, how the Phillies doing and all that stuff. And you said he was -- at one point, he was offered coffee and he turned it down and asked if he could have orange juice instead." After Matthews said, "Yeah," Maher continued: "First of all, Chris, you don't understand black people. They like juice. Preferably gin and juice." In response, Matthews replied: "No, no. Not true. Let me, you know, it's -- you walk into a diner, one of these things where grumpy old men are hanging around because they don't want to be at home with their wives for an hour a morning and they're hanging around there."

Responding to Matthews' assertion that "grumpy old men" hang around diners in order to avoid their wives, Maher claimed: "Oh, I think you've just caused yourself a problem at home. Talking about causing problems, I wonder what your wife is going to say about that. Speaking of which, Chris, I mean, you have been criticized about being a little sexist about [Sen.] Hillary [Clinton]." Matthews responded: "Oh, thank you for that. Why don't you put that in the bloodstream again. Get that out there in the water. Give it a little propaganda out there."

As Media Matters for America noted, on the April 16 edition of Hardball, Matthews asserted that Obama "can't walk into a dinette [sic] with five or six guys there, white guys, in some cases." Matthews continued: "He can't just shake hands and hang out. He doesn't seem to, 'Hey, you know, how are the Eagles doing?' Or 'How are the Phils doing?' " Similarly, on the April 10 edition of Hardball, Matthews and MSNBC correspondent David Shuster critiqued Obama's reported request for orange juice after being offered coffee at an Indiana diner.

From the April 18 edition of HBO's Real Time with Bill Maher:

MAHER: All right, but I heard you say on your show, you were talking about Barack Obama and you said -- and I know you like him. But you said when he goes into a diner, he can't ask the average guy, you know, how the Phillies doing and all that stuff. And you said he was -- at one point, he was offered coffee and he turned it down and asked if he could have orange juice instead.

MATTHEWS: Yeah.

MAHER: First of all, Chris, you don't understand black people. They like juice. Preferably gin and juice. I know this --

MATTHEWS: No, no. Not true. Let me, you know, it's -- you walk into a diner, one of these things where grumpy old men are hanging around because they don't want to be at home with their wives for an hour a morning and they're hanging around there -- you know. And they want that hour away and that third place, we call it, some place between work and home. And they're hanging around there having their cup of coffee, and I noticed he couldn't go up to people and just sort of say, how are you doing, what do you hear? He didn't seem to know how to do that, and I think that's gonna cause him a problem in this election.

MAHER: Oh, I think you've just caused yourself a problem at home. Talking about causing problems, I wonder what your wife is going to say about that. Speaking of which, Chris, I mean, you have been criticized about being a little sexist about Hillary.

MATTHEWS: Oh, thank you for that. Why don't you put that in the bloodstream again. Get that out there in the water. Give it a little propaganda out there.

MAHER: Well, no, but it seems like you --

MATTHEWS: Who's criticized me? Hillary? Who's done this? Help me out.

MAHER: Yes, Hillary Clinton thinks that you're sexist.

MATTHEWS: Well, you know, she's got a problem with a lot of us.

MAHER: A lot -- who -- and who are you meaning "us"? Media? Men?

MATTHEWS: No, I mean -- well, not Media Matters; they're on her side. No, media people, I think. I think she's been tough on the media. I think she's run a terrible campaign. She's better than her campaign. I think her press people have caused more trouble than their worth. I think the guy running her operation, Mark Penn -- she's out yesterday saying, "Tell people when you go door-to-door I'm not as bad as you think."

MAHER: Right.

MATTHEWS: I mean, and after all this billions of dollars she's spent on the campaign and we got a worse impression of her than she is? That's not a campaign; that's an assassination.

MAHER: But don't you think she has a point that gender has actually been a bigger factor in this campaign than race?

MATTHEWS: No, actually there are more women Democrats than there are male Democrats. It should help her.

MAHER: OK.

MATTHEWS: Shouldn't it?

MAHER: Why is she doing better with Catholics?

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    • Author by eweston8542983 (April 21, 2008 8:53 pm ET)
         

      Another drink guys?

      Don't worry this bar never closes.

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      • Author by carlileb5935 (April 22, 2008 2:04 am ET)
           
        Next Matthews will be telling us that these guys go to the Raccoon Lodge, and drive that same bus up and down Madison Avenue, up and down, up and down.... oh wait, that's another show.
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    • Author by wolf kotenberg (April 21, 2008 9:27 pm ET)
         
      Mathews must be starving for attention to come up with these " lame shock jock " subjects.
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      • Author by therick (April 21, 2008 9:39 pm ET)
           
        I think he's gotten so comfortable that he doesn't even realize what an idiot he has become-- "Here's the real me !"
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        • Author by mary59 (April 21, 2008 10:29 pm ET)
             
          And again with the dopey diner drivel...doesn't he relate like totally to the common guy in a diner?  Not in any diner around here.  They'd tune out his inane stream of consciousness chatter after about 30 seconds.
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          • Author by carlileb5935 (April 22, 2008 2:07 am ET)
               
            Didn't the last "diner" close down about 30 years ago?
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        • Author by tex (April 22, 2008 7:40 am ET)
             

          I think it was Johnny Carson who said he knew it was time to retire when he had said everything he ever had to say TWICE on the air.

          And that's the problem with this 24/7 "news" network thing. These guys talk constantly, and long ago ran out of things to say. But they have to keep talking, so they lapse into a weird kind of "stream of consciousness" narrative, letting us know "what they're thinking" as if every damn thing that pops into their heads is a pearl of wisdom. It's become like a teen's "DEAR DIARY" quest for meaning and self-importance, and they're sharing it with us because ... they're paid to just keep talking.

          Thus, we KNOW who that grumpy old man in the diner to avoid spending time with his wife IS. No matter what the topic, everything NOW discussed is all about Chris Matthews (or Sean Hannity, or Rush Limbaugh). We are witnessing the very epitome of narcissism, and there's no reason on earth that anyone should be that interested in these guys. Perhaps because they are atypical and dysfunctional in so many ways, it's a curiosity like watching the old Jerry Springer show. But it's way too creepy. And it advances our knowledge of "news" not a single iota. 

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          • Author by nerzog (April 22, 2008 10:40 am ET)
               
            I've been watching MSNBC through this election cycle, and the discourse is so repetitive and brainless that I simply can't believe it. It reminds me of the 90s, when they analyzed the Monica Lewinski scandal down to the molecular level. Every night, they cover the same ground... will Hillary drop out? Should Hillary drop out? Will Fagpingate hurt Obama in the General election? Will white men vote for Obama? Can Hillary win big enough in Pennsylvania to stay in the race? ENOUGH ALREADY!

            Meanwhile, Bush and Cheney's Oil War is sucking the Treasury dry, and they can't seem to find time to examine this monstrous fraud?
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          • Author by Nick307 (April 22, 2008 2:40 pm ET)
               

            Well, where most of the comments are missing the point is the fact that Matthews said this on Bill Maher's news/comedy show.  I saw his appearance, and while I don't care much for Chris Matthews and didn't think the comment delivered it's intended comedic effect, this story is nonetheless a waste of MMFA's efforts. Hardly an example of "conservative misinformation," this episode is more a personal attack on a conservative-leaning pundit with whom MMFA has taken issue mainly for being anti-Hillary.

            The point is, a conservative can say something stupid without it being "misinformation." Even if we are to assume that this is just Chris Matthews being his typical sexist self, exactly which gender is he being sexist towards? Is it the women, who are so unbearable to be around that their husbands run off to diners every day, or the pig-headed men who run away from their loving wives to cavort with other malcontent husbands? Since there is no clear bias exhibited in Matthews' comment, one can only really say that it was a stupid, unfunny statement. Like Congress getting involved in Major League Baseball's steroid problem, MMFA's choice to become involved in this issue is both unwarranted and irrelevant to the website's stated mission.

            Part of the reason I read MMFA is because, for the most part, they are not idealogical or agenda-driven. They correct conservative bias in the media, and do a great job. But the constant harrassment of Chris Matthews and related support of Hillary Clinton's candidacy are not only part of an agenda, but it is an agenda (supporting Hillary) that most major progressive institutions (Huffington Post, Bill Maher, Randi Rhodes, Rolling Stone, MoveOn.org, The Nation) do not support, and have in fact been very vocal opponents of Senator Clinton. So Hillary, in her corner, has NOW (for obvious reasons) and MMFA (for not so obvious ones). I think it's time for MMFA to either drop the "Progressive" label from their mission statement, or stop supporting Hillary Clinton at every turn.

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            • Author by mary59 (April 22, 2008 5:55 pm ET)
                 
              Actually this whole diner motif by Matthews started when he claimed that Obama couldn't go into a diner and be a regular guy.  He criticised him for asking for orange juice instead of taking the coffee.  So I'm not sure why you are on here about this being a Hillary site.  Whatever.
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              • Author by Nick307 (April 22, 2008 7:09 pm ET)
                   

                Yes, I'm aware of Matthews' "diner motif" as it relates to Senator Obama. But his "grumpy men" comment really had nothing to do with Obama or Clinton, it was just an ill-conceived effort at comedy embedded in a discussion of Obama's supposed lack of "Diner Cred." MMFA already devoted several pages (here and here) to the Obama-orange juice fiasco, so in this instance, one would have to admit that they're just piling on Matthews.

                In a way, I believe the diner story is relevant to a discussion about the election. What people either fail to understand or have difficulty admitting, is that many, many voting Americans are woefully uninformed when it comes to deciding how to vote in a general election. I mean, polling indicates that 10% of registered voters don't even know who John McCain is. Like it or not, uninformed voters are likely going to decide the presidency of the United States, and because of this, nonsense about bowling scores and $400 haircuts becomes relevant. Should the media continue to harp on these issues? Of course not. Should an entire hour of a nationally televised debate be devoted to tabloid garbage? Hell no. But if anyone thinks for a minute that your average American is capable of sifting through the BS and evaluating the core issues without being distracted by the gossip-column stuff, well, think again. So when it comes to perpetuating these stories, the media is certainly culpable. But when it comes to evaluating how stories like this may help or hurt a candidate, it's completely legitimate to talk about because that is how many Americans vote.

                In fact, I think Bill Maher put it best (on the very same episode as the Matthews gaffe) when he said, referring to Obama's "bitter" comments:

                "You know who's bitter in America? I am. Because sh**kickers voted twice for a retarded guy they wanted to have a beer with, and everybody else had to suffer the consequences."

                That about sums it up.

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                • Author by mary59 (April 23, 2008 10:29 am ET)
                     
                  Too true, but you tried to say earlier that Media Matters is really a "Hillary" site. It appears so far that they're trying to point out conservative misinformation no matter who the democratic candidate is.
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    • Author by fawltylogic (April 21, 2008 9:46 pm ET)
         
      Hey I'm married and I have to say he's onto something here. ;)
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    • Author by snoopy (April 21, 2008 10:36 pm ET)
         
      Oops, republic's just gave their wives another cause to shut down. Must suck being controlled by your ugly wife vs. being an equal to your trusting wife...
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    • Author by mr. l (April 21, 2008 10:43 pm ET)
         
      Hillary's spent BILLIONS of of dollars...?  Nuh-ah... She's spent 100 gazzilion bazillion dollars Mr. Matthews...
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      • Author by Appleboy (April 22, 2008 11:50 am ET)
           

        I like how it is always the candidates fault because they ran a lousy campaign. Just like in 2000 when they said Gore ran a bad campaign. Gore's "loss" had nothing to do with the media and all the lies they told about him. It was all Gore's doing.

        And I'm sure they'll say the same about Obama's campaign in the general election after the media savages him.

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    • Author by interestingobserver (April 21, 2008 10:45 pm ET)
         
      We are the Left: any comment that attempts to generalize about a group of people (except Christians and conservatives) in a humorous way must not be tolerated.  Never never never never never.    
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      • Author by mary59 (April 21, 2008 10:52 pm ET)
           
        Why, you nattering nabob of negativity.  Are you the one Chrissy is talking about?
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      • Author by deeznuts (April 21, 2008 10:58 pm ET)
           

        Everybody!

        Come see!

        INTERESTINGOBSERVER made a funny! 

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        • Author by Don Hussein Fabuloso (April 22, 2008 12:41 am ET)
             
          tee hee. He took an isolated event, then assuming the character of "The Left", subjected it to the all-or-nothing, no grey areas thinking of "the Right". Brilliant!
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        • Author by solon (April 22, 2008 2:49 am ET)
             
          Well he tried.
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    • Author by donaldmaddog5642 (April 22, 2008 3:37 am ET)
         
      For your information, guys (as in "guys") don't hang out at diners. Real guys hang out at bars. The only people who sit around at diners are people who have to leave the golf course because it is getting dark. Couple of hamburgers (veggie) and a salad, a cup of tea and a cigar (only in the parking lot). "Oh, lookit the time! Gotta get home to take out the garbage!" "Yeah, man, the wife's gonna be pissed!" "It's Saturday and it's my kid's tennis lesson. Man, I better be up fer dat!" "Damn, it's almost 11 o'clock. I need my beauty sleep." "I haven't been up this late since the prom! Am I a bad boy, or whut?" "Well, have a good one." "A good WHAT?" "Ha, Ha." "Hey, Chris. CHRIS! Hey,

      Chris!" "Somebody wake Chris, would ya?" "Hey, Chris, no sleepin' in the booth, good buddy." "Gotta do this next month, O.K.?" "See ya."
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    • Author by right-winger (April 22, 2008 7:44 am ET)
         
      THIS IS THE FIRST TIME THAT I AGREE WITH MATTHEWS A LITTLE. THOSE SAME WHITE MEN WHO ARE DEMS AND SOME LADIES WILL NOT VOTE FOR OBAMA IN NOV. IF HILLAY LOSES. MARK MY WORD MCCAIN WILL WIN IN NOV. WITH THE HELP OF MOSTLY WHITE MEN IN THE DEMOCRATE PARTY.
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      • Author by Easy to refute wingnuts (April 22, 2008 5:01 pm ET)
           
        Yeah, we should all take advice from hollering illiterates.
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    • Author by IRONY 101 (April 22, 2008 8:23 am ET)
         

      "...grumpy old men are hanging around because they don't want to be at home with their wives for an hour a morning..."

      And they call the waitress "Darlin'" and tip her a dollar. I hadn't realized that they were such a large voting block that merited all this attention.  ;>)

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    • Author by oscar the grouch (April 22, 2008 9:22 am ET)
         
      And where is the outrage at Maher for characterizing blacks as sitting around sipping gin and juice.  Is he saying they are all a bunch of alcoholics or????
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      • Author by jeter2 (April 22, 2008 11:55 am ET)
           

        Oscar,

        Maher is a "comedian" so he can pretty much say anything he wants, racist or not...or so I've been told by the Libs here.

        Since St. Keith says Limbaugh is a "comedian", I think Rush should be able to say whatever he likes without criticism. But of course the rules are always changing around here so it probably won't happen ;-)

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        • Author by ConstanceRifleII (April 22, 2008 12:15 pm ET)
             

          Not to defend Maher, because sometimes he ticks me off, but he is a comedian first and foremost.  KO refers to Rush as a comedian in jest, Rush doesn't call himself that.  The difference is, knowing Maher is a comedian, you can take what he says with a grain of salt because IMO comedians serve an important role in society as framers of the inanities and hypocrisies of everyday life.  And part of that is being offensive.  You may disagree, which a lot of people do (this is a fairly large debate in the comedic circles,) but you can't deny that offensive comedians are funny because they fulfill a need to be able to laugh at things we find offensive.  

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          • Author by jeter2 (April 22, 2008 12:26 pm ET)
               

            Dbeden,

            I was being kinda facetious about Rush. However, I still sometimes find it interesting how we can take a racist remark & dub it either a slur/smear or humorous depending on whom uttered it.

            I mean if you really think about it, it's the remark that's offensive. Deciding its funny rather than disgusting because a comedian said it rather than a journalist is what I find kind of comical.

            But hey that's just me.

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            • Author by ConstanceRifleII (April 22, 2008 12:58 pm ET)
                 
              I totally understand...like I said, there's a huge debate among comedians about how offensive language is taken and all that.  It is odd, and is in itself a form of hypocrisy, but I have come to believe that hypocrisy is inevitable.
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            • Author by juliajayne (April 22, 2008 1:26 pm ET)
                 
              Sir Jeter, dude. He was making reference to the OJ flap that Chrissy promulgated a few weeks back, remember?
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              • Author by Eric Jaffa (April 22, 2008 5:04 pm ET)
                   
                Why are you calling him Chrissy?
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                • Author by juliajayne (April 22, 2008 6:02 pm ET)
                     
                  Chris Matthews, who promulgated the orange juice thing about Obama was on Bill Maher's show. He is referred to as Chrissy or Chrissie or any other number of degogotory terms since he is a not widely respected as a pundit. Why are you asking? This reference is here all the time.
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    • Author by donaldmaddog5642 (April 22, 2008 10:06 am ET)
         
      Hey, TEX:

      Bingo is another topic. Or is it "bimbo" or "Ringo" or, Oh, forget it....
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    • Author by skiploader1111 (April 22, 2008 10:08 am ET)
         
      I think that Bill Maher got sidetracked in what he was going to ask Matthews.  He shouldn't have challenged Matthews on specific comments.  He should have pointed out how frivolous issues about demeanor and stereotypes are such a major part of Matthews' show and presents these issues as if they were the most important thing in deciding who to vote for.  ONLY AFTER, should have Maher brought up specifics.
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    • Author by anotheramerican (April 22, 2008 11:41 am ET)
         
      I'm surprised Chris didn't say, "Take my wife. Please!" ;-)
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    • Author by jeter2 (April 22, 2008 11:50 am ET)
         

      Up here in Massachusetts we refer to a "diner" as one of those railroad car type of joints that serve breakfast, lunch & dinner. There are only a few still around where I live.

      I suppose any place where folks gather for breakfast is what Matthews considers a "diner".

      I sometimes meet friends for coffee at a hole-in-the wall restaurant that serves only breakfast & lunch. It opens at 5am closes at 2pm. It's rare to find strangers dining there. It's mostly regs of all ages. Including the "old guys". They don't seem particularly grumpy. But maybe they are. And I've no idea whether they are there to get away from their wives. Could be.

      Is this really mis-information on Matthews part? Conservative mis-information at that? Or just a generalization that does no real harm. Sure Matthews suggesting Obama can't walk into places like this & feel comfortable sounds like bunk. From what I've seen Obama is a very personable guy that has zero problems mingling with folks anywhere he goes.

      Now I do wonder how Bill Maher gets away with his remarks :"First of all, Chris, you don't understand black people. They like juice. Preferably gin and juice."

      Can you imagine if Matthews had said that? Bet it would have been the headline here.

      Yeah yeah,  Maher is allegedly a "comedian". So as long as one claims to be a "comedian", anything goes? It's the messenger, not the message? Boy it must be great to have carte blanch to say anything you'd like, even racist remarks. Journalists everywhere should call themselves comedians.
      Hey your St. Keith has dubbed Limbaugh a "comedian", which means Rush should be immune to criticism for anything he utters if Maher is.

      Now Matthews feigning surprise at Maher's suggestion that he's sexist towards Hillary was comical. Matthews has been pretty vicious in his criticism of her. Some deserved, some not. Some blatantly sexist, some not.

      Matthews suggesting that MMFA is pro-Hillary seems to be a myth out there started by Bill O'Reilly. MMFA is not Pro Hillary or Obama. They are Pro-Democrat/Liberal/Progressive. 

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      • Author by ConstanceRifleII (April 22, 2008 12:06 pm ET)
           

        Jeter, how about they're anti-conservative misinformation?  I think that works, MMfA has never said they are anti-anything. ;)

        The diner comment certainly puts forth a false idea of who Obama is (and you said so yourself) so in this case, I believe it's misinformation.

         

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        • Author by jeter2 (April 22, 2008 12:19 pm ET)
             

          Dbeden,

          I agree, the part about Obama is mis-information. The part about grumpy old men taking refuge at a diner to get away from their wives is debatable ;-)

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      • Author by pete592 (April 22, 2008 12:33 pm ET)
           

        "Now I do wonder how Bill Maher gets away with his remarks :'First of all, Chris, you don't understand black people. They like juice. Preferably gin and juice.'"

        Which court is supposed to be trying Bill Maher in this case? 

        Are you mystified that HBO subscribers are not protesting in front of the Real Time studios threatening in mass to pull their subscriptions?

        Are you dumbfounded that an Imus-like public outcry hasn't taken place during the four days that this has had a chance to seep out beyond HBO's audience?

        Or are you simply calling the hypocrisy WAHHmbulance on MMFA's left-leaning posters? 

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      • Author by oscar the grouch (April 22, 2008 9:48 pm ET)
           
        I guess that's why I don't understand humor anymore. Apparently, its only funny if the presenter is identified as a comedian and the joke involves putting down a certain demographic or involves bodily functions. We come a long way from Red Skelton, Jack Benny, Bob Newhart, etc. (I guess).
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        • Author by pete592 (April 22, 2008 11:47 pm ET)
             
          I'll direct the same exact questions to you that I directed at Jeter above.
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          • Author by oscar the grouch (April 23, 2008 12:00 am ET)
               

            Answers is what you want, answers you shall receive.

            Maher has been found GUILTY of extremely poor taste in my court.

            HBO has a smaller audience than Imanass and the 5 viewers couldn't come up with bus fare after paying their cable bill.

            This the only place I've anything about the "Juice & Gin", so I'm assuming that the majority of the posters here agree with what he said. (And I'm sure they agree with statements about the Pope.)

            HYPOCRISY at its finest, yes!!!!!

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            • Author by pete592 (April 23, 2008 11:55 am ET)
                 

              Hypocrisy WAHHambulance it is then.  Not surprising.

              BTW, "Gin And Juice" is the title of a Snoop Dog song from his '93 album Doggystyle.  It was very popular back when Mtv still played videos.

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    • Author by Y = MX+B (April 22, 2008 12:25 pm ET)
         
      Eh, lighten up. This looked innocent enough to me, the guy was just trying to unwind and have a good time. Let's not forget, he said this on 'Real Time'... 
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    • Author by Eric Jaffa (April 22, 2008 5:07 pm ET)
         

       I don't get why MMFA is quoting this.

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