Howard Kurtz' gay marriage equivalence

Howard Kurtz on Perez Hilton's response to Carrie Prejean's gay marriage comments:

KURTZ: Perez told me that her answer was not inclusive because it alienated gay Americans. But by that reasoning, had she said she supported gay marriage, she would have alienated those who believe marriage should be between a man and a woman.

So, Howard Kurtz thinks that alienating gays by denying them the right to get married is equivalent to alienating bigots by allowing gays to get married?

Seems like maybe there's a bit of difference between those two things.