Of course, this is the Washington Post we're talking about, so the call for civility is directed at those who criticize anti-gay bigotry, not those who practice it:

Remember, this is Washington Post, which features anti-gay screeds on National Coming Out Day, treats gay suicide as a two-sided issue, gives a blog to someone who calls homosexuality an “abomination” and “indecent” and “perversion,” features activists who want “gay behavior” outlawed and who urge military chaplains to denounce gay congregants, treats hate-merchants like Bill Donohue as respectable figures, and promotes claims that gay sex “serves death” and comparisons of gay-rights advocates to racists and assertions that gays are sexist.

And now the Post thinks it's important to promote the claim that it is uncivil to refer to discrimination against gays as homophobic. Yeah. We wouldn't want to hurt the feelings of the “God hates fags” crowd. Speaking of which: This call for civility is entirely one-sided: It doesn't contain so much as a word of reproach for those who use ugly rhetoric to attack gays.